The Great Boyfriend Debate

I have been told more than once to look out for my girls because they are cute and boys are going to be a issue when they are older. Well that time has come, already.

I can't lock her up, I can't dress her like a Amish girl, (though she would still look cute) and I can't let Jason threaten every boy that is a friend, that he is going to body slam him, like he did to her first boyfriend. Yes, that is true. It was no wonder that poor six grader boy Ryan #1, dumped her at Christmas time. I thought it was kind of sweet but he called Sabrina every day and rode his bike to her cheerleading practices to watch her. But she is only in sixth grade! I didn't have a boyfriend that serious about me in sixth grade! What is going to happen when she is older? Now I am kind of getting worried.

As for Ryan, he was history during Christmas break, and on the first day back, she got a new one. I had to check out this kid, did he look like a skater dude like Ryan? Nope, in fact, he was a cute little shorter than her kid, that looked like Jonathon Lipnicki. I thought, okay, no threat there. And after a week, she said he was boring. On the same day, Ian, her friend asked her out, she said yes, and she broke up with him in a hour, to go out with Woody. I kind of feel bad for Ian, he has liked her all along, not a bad kid, but Woody?

Yes, I met him, when Sabrina started making arrangements to meet him on the sledding hill. He called just about every day, and I had to get after him. He is popular, cute with black long hair, but the kind of boy I do not approve of. He told Sabrina he wanted our parents to meet and go out to dinner together sometime. He wanted to come over and visit, since his mom let's him ride his skateboard downtown. He told Sabrina he would not sit with her at lunch unless a certain girl was removed, and so Sabrina told her friend to move. I thought that was awfully shallow. I thought great, he is already telling her what to do and she is complying.

Woody was history last week, when Sabrina fell for a 8th grader, Ryan #2 (it's sounds bad) But I am relieved because is a really nice kid. He was the star of the play, and he looks like Erick. I met his mom, and he said she is the first girlfriend he ever had. She has no classes with him, and can't eat lunch with him, so basically, now the play is over, they see each other in passing in the hallway. (That works for me!)

It may seem weird that I might know just a little too much about her love life, because I rather know than not know. Growing up, my mom NEVER talked to me about boyfriends. She knew I had them, but never questioned it. I really could have used some advice. So, I am doing what I can to make sure she has support and so she is open with me. I want her to have high expectations, be treated like a princess, and never give in to a boy's demands. At this stage, having a boyfriend is more for reputation status. It's all about bragging rights. Thank goodness! But I know, that it will eventually change, and she will really fall in love, which is kind of scary. Right now, my message to her is...telling her that you can be friends with boys without being a couple. But does she get that? Hmmm, we shall see how long Ryan #2 lasts.